Duty done for another year. More effort is needed on the other end – it won’t be long before the boys see going over there as being a chore.
Originally posted on ASD Mummy with issues.:
At this time of year, more than any other we actually put ourselves out for others, and make the effort to do things for and with people we don’t always have the time for the rest of the year. I’m not saying we don’t do it all the time because we can’t be bothered, but life tends to get in the way of doing other things. Work and school, and other classes and activities fill our lives most of the year, but at Christmas, we make the effort however hard it might be. Whether it be out of loyalty or out of guilt we do think of others.
Sometimes that effort can just be in the form of a card or an email. It is a perfect way of touching base with people who have been important in your life, be it family or friends. It is nice to say to people you own a little bit of my heart even if I don’t tell you constantly.
Sometimes that effort can be spending time with people we might otherwise choose not to. For me, this means being cooped up with not just one old person but two. In my own home though, I can always busy myself with things that need doing, like making constant cups of coffee for said old people. I do insist on Christmas at home, although Hubbys Mum is constantly saying we should go to hers one year. On a practical level, the boys need their own space around them when life is so confusing as it is on Christmas day, and to move their presents over to hers just to bring back again seems totally ridiculous! On a purely selfish level, I would totally hate it!